Boosting Your Libido When it is on Lockdown
Hey friends,
Libido has been on my mind lately - ALOT - mostly cause during these COVID times mine is gone. It hit the high road and went on vacation. If you are anything like me than stress and anxiety (even just the subconscious kind), fatigue, lack of privacy or your own bed, and feeling touched out have put you in a state of total shut down. I want to, but I don’t want to, or I want to, but not enough to actually do something about it, or straight up I am just not feeling it. So I’m revisiting all my tools and putting them into practice. This week’s blog is part round-up, part tools. So let’s revisit some of the materials I have shared in the last year that can help you boost your libido while on lockdown.
Many many things affect your libido, it’s different for every person and it’s different as you go through your life. Often, things that are affecting us outside the bedroom. Becoming aware of this dynamic can help us to support our libido but also live a happier life too. As an example, when I started this journey I realized that three things were holding back my sexuality. 1) Struggling to be in the present moment and in my body 2) struggling to let go and surrender or be vulnerable and 3) struggling to know my needs and communicate them. These challenges, of course, show up in all of my life and when I master them in the bedroom I master them outside too.
Alright, with that little segue out of the way - let’s dive in to the good stuff.
Where to start
Yesterday I talked about Libido on Lockdown and where to start. Dive in here.
Do you know how your libido actually works? Most of us don’t. We think it’s this fire or desire that just pops on whenever it feels like it. You are actually more in control than you know. Find out how here.
Let’s talk about the 5 biggest libido killers and what to do about them.
What to do when you are not feeling so sexy
Do you know what you need in bed, do you know what you need to feel sexy and get in the moment? Catch this resource to explore your needs now.
Take some inspiration from my girlfriend who ONLY wears sexy, soft and sensual things that make her feel fab.
What to do if you cannot get out of your head
Do you deal with Brain Gremlins (aka negative thoughts, thought distortions or limiting beliefs) about sex? in this video I talk about what they are , and how to tackle them. Watch it Now.
Do you find yourself not in your body during sex, but rather watching yourself from the outside with a clipboard and some judging notes? That’s called spectatoring honey and we need to nip it in the bud. Watch here as I talk about my process for dealing.
What to do if you are feeling touched out or overwhelmed and anxious
Fact is, when your nervous system is on alert it is hard to be ready for sex. But we can hack our nervous system - woohoo- so let’s talk about how.
What happens next?
So, how do we put this all together? It depends on your starting point and it depends on your specific barriers. But here’s three great places to begin.
1) Here’s my video on the one thing you need to do to recalibrate your sex life.
2) Grab a Free copy of the Naked Sexy Fun Times Playbook - it walks you through identifying your turn ons and turn offs so we can create a positive sexual interaction with your partner.
3) If you’ve got babes, grab my free Reset Your Sex Life (After Baby) Mini course. Three videos to walk you through my five part framework for reseting your sex life and libido.
Until I see you next time ladies, may we all get a little nookie.
Xo
The Happy V