Not in the mood, but don’t want to disappoint? Try these toys to take the pressure off.
Sex toys can be a great way to take the pressure off.
What do I mean?
Well - many clients I talk to are often in the situation where their libido is not around lately and while they can't really get into intercourse or they don't feel like doing the whole sex thing - they do have a desire to please their partner or give to them in some way.
Hand jobs and oral are great tools to provide your partner with some quickie pleasure that can be relatively low fuss for you. And sometimes the arousal that your partner builds can feed your energy and get you into the mood.
Well - there are sex toys that can add a little oomph and fun to hand jobs and oral - to mix it up and to make the experience more like the real thing. This can take the pressure off having intercourse, open up new play between you too that is more connected and even make things a little less messy for you.
Some choices to consider.
1) Sleeves or flesh lights
Caption: Photo from Pureromance.com
Sleeves are a silicone or kind of jelly like sleeve that the penis can slide into. You use the flesh light to enhance a hand job. So instead of feeling your hands on their penis, you partner feels a soft silicon tissue that glides nicely with lots of lube. You slide the flesh light up and down the penis and twist it just like you might your hands. The beautiful thing is they can ejaculate into the flesh light so there is no mess to clean up. You can buy sleeves that vibrate or sleeves that do not.
Here’s a great article for more details.
2) Small fingertip vibrator
Photo from: Pureromance.com
You can purchase small disposable vibrators often at pharmacies or buy something nicer at a sex toy shop. A small vibrator that goes on your finger can add a little fun to the mix whether you are playing with a penis or a vagina. Use it to enhance what you already do with your fingers and mouth to provide some new experiences.
3) Cock Rings
Image from: Pureromance.com
You can buy cock rings in multiple sizes (again some with vibrators attached and some not). This provides a little tension, helps the penis stay harder for longer and again provides new sensations and experiences for your partner.
4) Prostate Massagers
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For the more adventurous you can experiment with anal play as well. Always talk to your partner first - there is no such thing as surprise anal. The nice things about using a small anal toy to explore is that you don't have to use your fingers if that makes you squeamish. Again you can buy vibrating and non vibrating versions. You can start by lightly massaging the anal and perineal (small area between penis and anus) with the toy. Light tickles and touch will relax the anus and help your partner test out the sensations if they are new to it. Make sure you read up on anal play before you get started. Check out my favourite butt stuff gal @lunamatatas for the best info.
And that my friends is how sex toys can take your sex play to the next level. Which do you love? Need some help picking something. Hit me up and let’s get you sorted.
Side note - another way to boost your in the mood groove is with some lady friendly porn. Check out my recent blog on some of my favourite mainstream alternatives.
Side Note - I don’t sell sex toys anymore but am happy to help you get what you ned.
Much love
Sofia