That One Sneaky Annoying Thing You Can Do To Improve Your Sex Life Right Now

So, here's the thing. There is one thing that I know for sure can help you improve your self life. 

This one thing...when done right....will help you...

- experience more pleasure in your body

- get out of your head

- communicate better with your partner

- get more of what you want in bed and in life 

- and feel more radiant, full of vitality

Oh and it boosts your immune system and can banish headaches too. 

Yup you, guessed it. That one thing is masturbating. 

Not your regular, run of the mill, 2 mins and your done masturbating. But intentional, caring, curious, playful, and healing masturbating. Totally different ballgame. 

You’ve probably heard some version of this advice since you were young. You gotta touch yourself to know yourself. Something, but - have you ever actually done it?

I know I did. And it didn’t actually click for me until I actually started this work. It started with a phone call. To the only sex therapist where I lived (at the time), after I had angrily thrown my partner off me mid climax while he so diligently was trying to please me. He was so hurt and I was so confused by my response to pleasure in my body.

I called her, frustrated and worried I would never experience “true” orgasm in my life. And she said,  “Honey, you just don’t know how to orgasm”. And she recommended a few books to me. Since then, I have done ALOT of reading on the subject, and I can tell you, hands down, whether its Tantra and woowoo or straight up traditional sex therapy the advice is always the same. Touch yourself!!! 

If you are here, my guess is you typically don’t masturbate often, or at all. Maybe you don’t really feel like you know what you are doing, or you still feel “weird” about it, or you definitely feel weird about doing it in your relationship.  Or maybe you masturbate daily but if you think about it you are kinda “wham bam thank you ma’amming yourself.” No judgment lady.

I also guess, that if you are here, there is something about your sex life that feels not quite right for you. It might be painful sex, it might be lack of or lackluster orgams, it might be that your once vibrant libido has walked off the job. Either way you are done with mediocre sex. You are ready to invest in yourself and in your relationship. You are ready to do something about this.

And, my guess is, you have a sneaky feeling it could make a difference for you, or maybe you have even worked with me before and gotten a glimpse of how it could work for you, but you didn’t commit to going all in.

So - here’s my question for you. 

Why not do it?  Why not commit to yourself, to your partner, and to your relationship. 

Why not commit to masturbating daily, or as much as you can for the next 30 days. 

Something to consider no? 

Lots of Love - 

Sofia A.K.A The Happy V.

PS. Think you wanna try this but need a little help. Maybe an accountability buddy, and maybe some help adding some intention and magic to your masturbation practice. I’ve got just the thing for you.  My brand new coaching program The Libido Lab starts Nov 18. 4 weeks, 30 days of support to do just this. Together we are going to self-love like crazy, learn how to communicate with our partners and hit the reset button on our sex life for 2020. 

Are you in? Email sofia@thehappyvaginaproject.com to get all the details.