The Roommates to Romance After Kids Challenge

Valentine’s Day Edition

Get out of your sexual stalemate and into a naked sexy fun time in 7 days or less.

Are you stuck here?

Low libido partner

  • dreading valentine’s day because you are too touched out or tired to even consider a sex date

  • want to schedule sexy fun for valentine’s day but are worried your libido wont’ show up and you will feel pressured

  • feel disconnected from your partner in the day to day, like you are roommates, and you don’t know how to get back to the romance.

  • know if you show up for a sex date your will eventually be grateful you did if you just get through the first part.

  • feel guilty you turn your partner down all the time. You want to want sex.

High libido partner

  • wants to connect in the bedroom but worried you are going to have the same cycle of rejection no matter how you ask for sexy times.

  • feel like your drive or desire for sex is somehow bad or wrong.

  • know your partner will often say they were glad they did it after you had sex but getting there didn’t feel good (like they were forcing themselves).

  • feel less and less confident initiating sex even you know they like it when you take the lead.

You both want sex to be a fun, flirty, light and easy way to connect - but you aren’t sure how to get there.

You CAN have an amazing valentine’s day bedroom date, even if you are tired, touched out, and out of sync with your partner. Let me show you how, and make it stupid easy.

What’s Inside the Challenge?

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    7 daily practices to bring the flirt back in under 5 minutes a day.

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    My four-step process for planning a sex date that you can get excited about - even if you are tired and touched out.

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    A guided no brainer date night activity to get you started on your first Naked Sexy Fun Times

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    My Naked Sexy Fun Times Playbook where you will build your own prelaunch checklist for liftoff in the bedroom.

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    Step by step instructions for three connection tools you can implement on repeat.

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    Daily Ask Me Anything Office Hours during the Challenge in our private anonymous community.

Here’s the Plan


Starting Feb 7 and building up to Feb 14 you’ll commit to one micro- connection action a day to get you ready for a valentine’s day date that doesn’t let you down. On your V-day weekend you’ll have one hour together kid free to do the follow-along workshop and host yourself a Naked Sexy Fun Time.  

First, I will guide you through my signature 4 step process for hosting a party your libido wants to show up to and initiate a sex date you can both get excited about. Then I’ll hold your hand from day one to day seven with no brainers tools you can implement even in the chaos of life with kids. 

My goal is for you to make valentines’ day the day you hit the reset button on your sex life after kids and get back in the saddle of your sex life.

What people have to say

  • Our naked sexy fun times was a success. It really made our intentions clear (connecting, relaxing with each other and having a positive experience). We went to bed late, but grateful and happy! We appreciate Sofia’s easy to follow tips and strategies to help rekindle the spark and prioritizing our intimacy.

    M.F Workshop Participant

HI, I am Sofia

I am your totally TMI bestie who has been giving sex advice since high school. I am a certified sex coach and educator with over 10 years experience teaching adults, teens and tots about sex, pleasure, consent and relationships.

I am a mama and step mama living in a neurospicy household and a blended family just trying to keep my libido alive in this busy world while parenting three kiddos. I have reinvented my sex life after three kids and I am here to help you do the same - so you can find the spark in yourself and your relationship again!

I’ll see you in the challenge!

The Fine Print

I have used this exact process to rebuild my sex life after three kids. In the midst of two working parents and busy lives. I know you can do it to. This is really practical advice for parents living busy lives who don’t want to loose each other in the process of having a family. AND if you don’t get what you came for after you put in the effort I will give you a full refund or a 1:1 call to refine the tools for your specific needs.

You’ll have the recordings for 12 months - cause I want you to TAKE ACTION and DO THE THING! By the end a year you won’t need the guided activities anymore you will have baked them in to your new status quo and you won’t even have to think about them.

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • This challenge is for parents with kiddos about 1-15 who can’t think of the last time they had sex, or the last time they had great sex. They are in roommate mode and want to bring the spark back.

  • The goal is for you to do the challenge together - to each offer small moments of connection that are reciprocated every day building up to a hot date. You can do the micro connection challenges on your own as an experiment and see if your partner follows your lead - your results will just be a bit different. You do you my friend. If you do differently then usual you are at least one step closer to getting different results.

  • This whole challenge will take you less than 2 hours.

    • 15 minutes to get yourself set up for success for the week

    • 5 minute daily micro connection activities

    • 1 hour valentines day date

    You can do this!

  • If you aren’t satisfied with your result by the end of your valentine’s date and if really committed to the challenges I will offer you a refund or a free 1:1 call to find a path to success.

  • All the activities are focused on finding relaxed, present connection together. That means using our words and bodies (aka touch) to share affection. They are meant to be approachable wether your body is maxed and touched out, or you are eager to touch each other. We want to meet each of you where you are at.